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Men are from Mars & Women don’t have a Penis


    This is, of course, a play on the title of the 1991 book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray. Dated though it is, the title is catchy, and the other day I heard a woman with a PhD trying to inject a little bit of colour into her radio interview by invoking the ‘Mars/Venus’ mantra.
The title is much more interesting than the book probably ever was, though it hit a chord at the time. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a relationship book that is way too smaltzy for today’s market. Not only that, it’s probably way out of sync with today’s world. How come? It just does not take account of basic biological differences: women don’t have penises, but they do have wombs and they are biochemically and emotionally quite different to men.
    The book starts off with an admission by the author that he just didn’t understand what his wife was feeling when she had their first baby. SNAG that he was (that’s Sensitive New Age Guy for the non-baby boomers), Jon faces up to his inadequacies and gets into cuddling and just holding his wife when she feels the need. He gets so good at understanding his wife’s needs for cuddling that he goes on to be a brilliant therapist for couples who are having similar problems…as one did at that time.
    So, what’s wrong with that? Plenty! According to Noel Biderman, the founder of Ashley the build up to the arrival of the first child is when his business starts to get heaps of new male clients. Pregnancy is crunch time for fidelity. No amount of cuddling the wife is going to make men faithful when their women are in the family way, apparently. Biderman’s business had approximately 27 million clients at the time of the interview in 2014, so I guess that makes him something of an authority in the field of infidelity.

--'The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress'

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Bryan Singer is about to tackle yet another X-Men movie for release in 2016, but after that, he might stay in the world of sci-fi for a different sort of film. 20th Century Fox has just picked up the rights to The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, based on a novel by legendary sci-fi writer Robert A. Heinlein. It’s unclear if Singer would direct or produce but Marc Guggenheim (Green Lantern) is writing the script for the adaptation, which will be retitled Uprising.

The 1966 novel has come close to becoming a movie a few times but rights recently reverted back to Heinlein’s estate. Fox then swooped in to grab the property. Read more about The Moon is a Harsh Mistress movie below.

The Hollywood Reporter broke the news of The Moon is a Harsh Mistress movie. Here’s the book description from Amazon with a ton of good info:

--The truth about polyamory

At 19, Emer O’Toole had a boyfriend and a girlfriend – but no word for the arrangement. Now, like a growing number of people, she does: polyamory. She and her friends reveal what life is like with more than one lover

Last summer, at a friend’s birthday, a man sat next to me, explained that he’d heard I was polyamorous and asked if we could talk about it. He proceeded to explain that he’s a poly person at heart, but that his partner would never go for it: that’s why he cheated on her. I asked if he’d tried communicating about the kind of relationship he really wanted. No. He couldn’t. His partner was too traditional, too closed-minded. I asked how he’d feel if she became romantically involved with someone else. This was a moot point – she would simply never do that. Oh dear.

Polyamory is usually described as ethical non-monogamy – that is, non-monogamy with the consent and knowledge of all involved. But, of course, there are infinitesimal interpretations of that. Whose ethics? Which actions need consent? What exactly do we want or need to know?

- - On the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy!                       

The 4th International Academic Polyamory Conference is happening on the campus of the University of California, Berkeley, California, Feb 13-15, 2015 [The official name is "The International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy". (Last chance for the discount registration fee - price goes up again in four days!).

The main focus of this event is upon academic/scientific presentations, but anyone interested in matters related to polyamory and consensual nonmonogamy is invited to attend! Lots of NEW information and fresh perspectives. EXAMPLE: Most Americans presume the main force pushing monogamy on everyone else is Christian Fundementalism. If so, then what's it like to be polyamorous in Japan - or Israel - where Christian fundementalism is virtually non-existent? How do people feel about polyamory in a place like Nepal, where the traditional culture has always permitted - (and sometimes demanded) - that women to have two or more simultaneous husbands? What do the French and Italian social scientists have to say about consensual nonmonogamy? Many poly folk presume polyamory is a purely white, middle class, suburban phenomena - but what do African Americans have to say about all this? is there polyamory in Latin America? Anarchists and New Age gurus have written much about polyamory - but what do serious psychological researchers and social scientists think about consensual nonmonogamy? Many folks still naively imagine polyamory was invented in California in the 1990s - but what do historians say about that? What is the real history of polyamory - and what's likely to go in the future?

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