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  • 'Poly' & “The Project”

    We are talking about a piece on the poly lifestyle on “The Project” on TV; on Channel 10 for Melbourne viewers. The show first went to air at 6:30PM on the 26th of May, 2015, to be exact; though there was a replay later on in the evening. You can view the poly segment itself, on the podcast page of The Project section of the Ten website.
    Polyamory doesn't get much publicity on mainstream media, and it was good to see that this segment showed polyamory in what some of us thought was quite a positive light.
    Polyamory has been around for a very long time. In Australia, Carl Turney was probably the most interviewed spokesman for polyamory during the early 1990's. He had quite a few interviews in the mainstream media across the nation in that era. In those days, the reportage tried to sensationalize polyamory by drawing attention to the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. This, despite Carl's best attempts to steer all the interviews in a less salacious direction.
    These days, sex and sexual infidelity is not such a big deal. Is it any wonder? The lid really has come off. Sex is a common media theme in many walks of life.
     Thankfully, the Australian public was spared the bitchy comments and lewd innuendos from the panel after this particular segment; something that would undoubtedly have happened even a few years ago.
     A few of us had an informal chat after the show, too; If there was a theme in what we had to say, it was the fact that polyamory can be so much more than sexual relations with more than one other person. The essence of the lifestyle lies in the fact that relationships can become more dynamic and rich between all parties in a polyamorous situation.
    Clearly, in the show, and in the experience of those of us who have been in the polyamory lifestyle, sex did play a vital role in the initial stages of relationships in the beginning. But life moves on, things change, people change, and the sexual exuberance of a new relationship can give way to much more deep and subtle nuances.
  • 4th International Conference:

    - - On the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy!                       

    The 4th International Academic Polyamory Conference is happening on the campus of the University of California, Berkeley, California, Feb 13-15, 2015 [The official name is "The International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Nonmonogamy". (Last chance for the discount registration fee - price goes up again in four days!). http://www.thesaar.com/


    The main focus of this event is upon academic/scientific presentations, but anyone interested in matters related to polyamory and consensual nonmonogamy is invited to attend! Lots of NEW information and fresh perspectives. EXAMPLE: Most Americans presume the main force pushing monogamy on everyone else is Christian Fundementalism. If so, then what's it like to be polyamorous in Japan - or Israel - where Christian fundementalism is virtually non-existent? How do people feel about polyamory in a place like Nepal, where the traditional culture has always permitted - (and sometimes demanded) - that women to have two or more simultaneous husbands? What do the French and Italian social scientists have to say about consensual nonmonogamy? Many poly folk presume polyamory is a purely white, middle class, suburban phenomena - but what do African Americans have to say about all this? is there polyamory in Latin America? Anarchists and New Age gurus have written much about polyamory - but what do serious psychological researchers and social scientists think about consensual nonmonogamy? Many folks still naively imagine polyamory was invented in California in the 1990s - but what do historians say about that? What is the real history of polyamory - and what's likely to go in the future?

  • Scope of the Term "Polyamory"

     

    No single written definition of "polyamory" has universal acceptance. It is generally agreed that polyamory involves multiple consensual, loving relationships (or openness to such), but beyond that the term is as ambiguous as the word love itself. 

    Some object to the idea that one must currently be participating in multiple relationships to be considered polyamorous. Others would consider their relational outlook polyamorous, regardless of whether they happen to be single or in an exclusive relationship at the time. A relationship is more likely to be called "polyamorous" if at least one relationship is long-term, involves some sort of commitment (e.g. a formal ceremony), and involves shared living arrangements and/or finances, but none of these criteria are necessary or definitive.